SUPERFOODS FOR SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

SUPERFOODS FOR SEXUAL PERFORMANCE

I have had several feedback from our listeners concerning the previous edition of the discussion. Many ladies said I focused more on the foods that boost the sexual performance of men. I wish to indicate that the food items we discussed previously work equally for women. However because of popular request, I will discuss some food items that boost the sexual performance of women.

1. RED WINE

Red wine has been proven over the years to boost the sex drive of women. Several researches link the consumption of red wine to stronger libido in women. Wine is made from fermented grapes, it has a natural chemical balance. The grapes are fermented without the addition of sugar, acids, enzymes, water or other nutrients. Red wine is also rich in antioxidants that help to reduce aging making you look radiant and younger. A glass or two of red wine is enough to raise your game.

2. CLOVES

For those who may not know what cloves are, they are those spices that look like tiny nails. They are used in making 'sobolo'. In the North they are called 'mosoro'. People use them to spice a variety of food items such as drinks, porridge, meat, fish, etc.

Cloves are no ordinary spices. They have been used to enhance sexual performance in both men and women since ancient times. In men, cloves help to prevent premature ejaculation. They are also used as libido boosters in both men and women.  Cloves are also very high sources of omega-3 fatty acids which are essential for improving cardiovascular health. As I indicated in the previous discussion, a person's sexual health is dependent on the health of their heart and blood vessels.

The sweet aroma of cloves freshen breath and help fight halitosis. Apart from the fact that halitosis is a turn off during sex, emerging researches are linking bad breadth and bleeding gums to erectile dysfunction. Bad breadth can also affect one's self esteem and confidence level.

LET US NOW LOOK AT THOSE FOOD ITEMS THAT CAN KILL YOUR SEXUAL PERFORMANCE.

1. ALCOHOL

Alcohol abuse has been linked to reduction in sexual performance in several studies. Alcohol in itself is a depressant. It also inhibits the body's ability to produce testosterone which is a major sex hormone for both males and females. The irony is that alcohol increases sexual desire but reduces sexual performance. If you want enhance your sexual performance, you need to avoid alcohol abuse.

2. DAIRY PRODUCTS (animal milk, cheese, ice cream)

This may come as shocker to many people but the lactic acid in dairy products can kill your libido. One may ask, what about the calcium and other minerals that diary products provide? Yes animal milk contains a lot of calcium and calcium is linked to sexual health but the fact is animal milk is not the only source of calcium. You may want to resort to lactose free milk if you are concerned about your sexual health. There are several food items that are very healthy sources of calcium. Healthy substitutes for dairy milk are soy milk, tigernut milk, cashew milk. Green leafy vegetables are also very good sources of calcium.

Written by

Fred Amese

What Women Should Expect From a Man During the Courting Process

What Women Should Expect From a Man During the Courting Process

Picking a career and picking a man to spend the rest of your life with can be very similar.  Typically after a bit of thought you decide on a career.  In this example, we will pretend it is finance.  You go to college for four years and major in business with a concentration in finance.  After school you get a job at JP Morgan.  At JP Morgan you give it everything you got, work long hours, and after two years you get promoted.  A year later, maybe you are not getting along with your boss and decide to switch firms.  You get a job at Morgan Stanley.  You once again work long hours.


However, this time you decide maybe finance is not the career for you.  You are tired of the hours, underappreciated work, and wish to do something else.  Now you decide to become a teacher.  You go back to school and get the necessary certifications and try again.   Now you spend 10 years as a teacher and are as happy as can be.  


Now how does this story relate to dating.  Your career is much like your love life.  It is your job to use all the information available to forecast the type of man that will make you happy.  Now you go into the world and try to find that man.  Once you find him, you will date him for awhile to confirm whether this guy is the right one for you.  If he is not the right guy, you will release him back into the dating pool and go find another guy.  Much like choosing your career, knowing exactly what you want is easy for some but for most of us, trial and error, a little luck, and some hard work is going to land you the guy of your dreams.

However, during this course, what should you expect from men? 

1. The man making an effort  - Ex:  Calling you, asking you out, hearing from him more than once a week.
2.  A man willing to wait for sex - If you politely decline sex and he never calls you again, Great it was not meant to be.  If he really likes you, he won't care what activity you are doing, he just wants to do it with you.
3.  No matter how demanding his job is, he will find time to go out with you.  If he won't, maybe dating is not a top priority for him right now.
4. The man typically knowing you are right for him potentially way before you have made up your mind about him - Men make up their mind about a girl very quickly.  Don't be scared off by this, just keep going if he is pursuing you hard, eventually you will catch up. 
5. Introductions to friends/family/ and invitations to events/future plans - If after a 90 days he isn't starting to talk about making plans he is probably is NOT thinking of you as a long term woman for him...

Written by

Mike Goldstein

In Love with an Addict? Why it is a "Good" Thing

In Love with an Addict? Why it is a "Good" Thing

Does your loved one's destructive behavior and continual lies make you feel like you are going crazy? Do you ask yourself daily, or multiple times daily, "Why on earth do I tolerate this person with this addiction?!"Do you feel confused when you experience moments with the addict where you feel joy and see glimmers of hope that things will get better? Sounds like you are in love with an addict.

And, although this might sound crazy, I think it is a "good" thing. Read that last statement again if you need to and notice if you had a reaction to it. Did it make you cringe? If you are someone with an addiction, are you curious why I say that it is a good thing to be in love with you?

Well, it is. I am not saying it is good to be in love with the addiction. That is a different thing. After all, The person you love is NOT their addiction. The addiction; however, is definitely a huge part of their lives and their world; especially their body, mind, and spirit. Every aspect of a person's BEING gets taken over by the illusion of what drugs, alcohol, food, sex, work, financial addiction has to offer.

The "vice(s)" a person ends up using often becomes their reason; their excuse to repeatedly escape the feelings of loneliness, shame, sadness, guilt, pain-physical and/or emotional-etc. This desire to escape is not intentional; the brain's reward center kicks in with dopamine; the "gotta get it" neurotransmitter. The fix becomes more important than any relationship. Relying on this "vice" gives someone who has a history of trauma, shame, depression, sadness, attachment issues, etc, or even curiosity or accident (i.e. porn addiction is impacting children as young as 8 years of age) a reason/excuse to hide from who they truly are- the person you love.

Being in love with an addict means that at some point in your relationship, you saw their potential, along with their talents, intuitiveness, sensitivity, and brilliance. Many times, and understandably so, loved ones forget about these positive attributes, especially as they endure years of lies, deception, betrayal, and pain. I am not saying that because you have seen who this person really is-the "good" in them-that you should stay with them at all costs. It is crucial that partners, spouses, children, loved ones, do what they need to do in order to get/stay healthy, especially since we know that with addiction, the entire family system gets sick. For some, this may mean walking away from the relationship for awhile or forever. However, even if you walk away, it is still ok to love the person in their addiction.

Having healthy boundaries is a strong sign of loving the addict, and it may also feel really foreign. After all, you have probably found yourself enabling them out of fear that they might leave you or even die if you didn't. Setting boundaries can be the biggest form of telling your loved one just how much you care about them. Boundaries mean that because you love this person so much, you are drawing a line in the sand to assist them in getting help, not in dying. An example of a boundary is to no longer give your family member money, or monitoring their accounts, especially if you know they use it to buy drugs, alcohol, sex, gamble, etc. This may feel like policing, however, in the beginning of recovery, this behavioral boundary may prove effective. If the person with the addiction wants recovery, they will likely be open to this type of boundary. After all, it will assist them in being more honest and accountable.

Another way to show that you love your partner via boundaries is to do things for your own recovery. For example, attending therapy and joining a support group. This is a form of influence, not control, and a healthy way of showing your loved one that you too are learning new ways of coping with the addiction. A third boundary may be to limit contact with the person if they are using. If you live with them, limiting contact to a minimum; letting them know you are doing this is key as to not create more conflict than is already in the space.

Finally, and as previously mentioned, leaving for a short while or forever may be the ultimate boundary you practice which may need to be done as a sign of self love as well as loving them. If the relationship gets too toxic and the person with the addiction refuses help, leaving may be the ultimate boundary and act of self and other love.

It is ok to love someone who has an addiction; in fact, I think it is a "good" thing. Demonstrating your love by setting healthy boundaries is a beautiful way to take care of your own needs while insulating you from further pain caused by the addiction.

Remember, you are worth it!

Candice Christiansen

Founder at Namaste Center for Healing

Chocolate

Chocolate

Aren't the piece of chocolate
Suppose to sweeten cheerless mood
The darker is definitely better for the melancholy
The instant panacea curing the ill feelings
In the minute it melt heavenly in mouth

If all would be as simple as it sounds
I'd eat dark chocolate by kilos every day
At point when the occasion strike with hammer's blow
Just pop in , reaching to forbidden kitchen drawer

Not working , I can attest to fact
A little only while munching the desert
The sadness needs something stronger than sugar treat
The shot of hug , the cocktail of kisses with a cherry on the top

by Margaret Gudkov

Embroidery majestic floridness

Embroidery majestic floridness

Fait accompli to Chinese silk light beauty
The song to craftsmanship manifestation
To hands creating miracle equal to nature's

The woman's body harboring inside
Caressed lovingly by fabric soft murmuring
Her curves seeking barely zoetic touch
Celestial breath, mere whisper over skin

She wiggles in the silk embrace
The thighs rubbing in delicious tasting
Bringing desire up a notch while laying on the sheets
The sumptuous sheets seen verboten romps
That children cannot set the eyes on

by Margaret Gudkov
art by Evan Wilson

I am longing to be as free as butterfly

I am longing to be as free as butterfly
Not obligated sit on just one specific flower
Flying without any preordained thought
Adorning sky with multitude of tones
I'd relish nectar on the petals mixed into morning dew
Rest awhile and glide anew till other leaves and blooms
Catch my heart's compass, beckoning to reach out

I'd link amorphous connection, enjoying company
Afterwards saying goodbye , keeping the memory inside
To the untouched destinations, full of exotic stories
How light-weighted you might say, not serious about life
On contrary , I am filled with curiosity limitless horizon
Why bound yourself to same routine
When world present the opportunities abound
Be like butterfly or bird , not chained to the perimeter of space
But going places to partake in role , assigned from birth

by Margaret Gudkov

Nothing can compare to softness of your lips

Nothing can compare to softness of your lips
Surfing with abandon over crevices of mine
No down pillow suffocating snuggling abyss
No cuddly teddy bear from the buried past

I stare at you across the table wanting to touch
Naked under my flimsy dress, burning with fever
Can you read what my eyes advertizing blatantly
Saying not a word , seducing in the silent style

What is it to understand
Masking you embarrassment to permit the truth to fly
I command, beg you to find pretense and go under tablecloth
Indulge my lips in duel of the wills , opening the heaven door

Not courageous enough to balance on the border of absurd
Afraid the judging looks of jealous folks cause mental discomfort
You give me puppy gaze of timid stag first time laying eyes on doe
We on public darling, there are rules of etiquette bound to obey
I say to hell with it, be a pirate , abordaging me...drop the fork on floor and dive through ocean waves

by Margaret Gudkov
art by Jack Vettriano